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The Value of Pain

Pain is different for everyone. When I explain to someone that I am facing an issue with something, I have heard a few people point out saying that isn't an issue at all. Pain isn't always caused by the same reasons for everyone. It is different for each and every person. If I haven't felt pain that another person felt due to a particular experience, it doesn't mean it is irrelevant. 

Similarly, everyone's pain has its own value. It brings a change whether we appreciate it or not. For some it makes them brave, to a few others it makes them get in touch with their vulnerability again and to some others it just lets them open up and stay that way. In some way or the other, it lets us see ourselves a little better than what we know us. If we don't understand someone's pain, it is better to stay silent than sabotage them for feeling that way. After all, it is pain that breaks us and makes us whole again. 
Pain need not necessarily be physical. It could be a wo…

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